In the previous sections《How to Last Longer in Bed Without Pills: 15 Expert-Backed Ways to Increase Stamina-I》, we covered conditioning your body through diet, exercise, and supplements to naturally increase stamina. But as they say, mind over matter – so it’s time to get your mental game on lock too.
Beyond just prepping physically, you’ll want to master some pro-mind tricks and specialized techniques to consciously stave off climax when things start heating up. The following 8 hacks will teach you how to leverage your brain, positions, toys and more to become a bona fide lay-maker:
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By conditioning both your body and mind, you’ll become a dual-threat weapon – able to withhold detonation for as long as you damn well please. Leaving your partner a sweaty, convulsed mess has never been so easy!
Let’s dive into each of these 8 pro-level mental stamina hacks. With some patience and committed training, you’ll develop the focus of a Buddhist monk combined with the insatiable appetite of a WWE superstar. Your sex life will never be the same.
9. Using Natural Remedies to Go the Distance
While pills and prescriptions can give you an artificial boost, going all-natural is a safer long-term strategy for increasing your lasting power. Luckily, Mother Nature has provided plenty of herbal remedies and nutraceuticals to help you go the distance.
One of the most acclaimed stamina herbs is ashwagandha. This ancient Indian root has been used for centuries in Ayurvedic medicine to treat sexual dysfunction and low testosterone. A 2011 pilot study published in the American Family Physician journal found ashwagandha significantly increased endurance and recovery time after exercise.
Another promising natural option is Korean red ginseng《A Double-Blind Crossover Study Evaluating the Efficacy of Korean Red Ginseng in Patients With Erectile Dysfunction: A Preliminary Report》. According to a review in the Journal of Ginseng Research, the active compounds in red ginseng show positive effects on improving erectile function, libido, and protecting against oxidative stress that can hamper performance.
For an all-in-one supplement, look for proprietary blends containing stamina boosters like L-arginine, zinc, and B-vitamins such as TestoFuel or Male Extra. A 2019 study on Male Extra showed it helped increase sexual satisfaction and ejaculatory control after 8 weeks of use.
You can also make old-school natural remedies yourself like pomegranate juice or watermelon “lmugars.” Both are rich in antioxidants and compounds that support nitric oxide production for better blood flow according to research.
Always check with your doctor before starting any new supplement regimen, especially if you have existing medical conditions. But incorporating some ancient, plant-based remedies could be a safe way to naturally turbocharge your time in the bedroom without side effects.
10. Mental Hacks to Last Longer While Making Love
While physical stamina is important, lasting longer in bed is also a mental game. With the right mental hacks and mindset training, you can gain incredible control over your orgasm and stride like a pornstar.
Start With Breathing
Deep belly breathing is one of the most effective ways to quickly lower your arousal levels. As you feel yourself getting too excited, inhale deeply through your nose and exhale slowly through your mouth. This triggers a relaxation response that stops you from going over the edge.
Apply the Squeeze Technique
When you feel the point-of-no-return approaching, immediately stop thrusting and squeeze firmly around the head of your penis for 10-15 seconds until the feeling passes. Then you can reset and resume lovemaking.
Mental Distractions
If you need a quick way to kill your arousal, use mental distractions. Flex and release your arm, leg, and ab muscles in a pattern. Count backwards from 100 by 3s. Visualize something nonsexual like changing a tire or doing taxes. The more vividly you can call up the visual, the better.
Stay Out of Your Head
Overthinking and putting too much pressure on yourself is a surefire way to lose control faster. Instead, fully immerse yourself in the physical sensations and intimacy of the moment through your senses of smell, touch, sound.
Positive Reinforcement
Use positive affirmations and visualization exercises to boost your confidence in lasting. Tell yourself “I am in complete control” or picture yourself effortlessly pleasing your partner all night long. True lasting power starts between the ears.
With the proper breathwork, squeezing techniques, distractions, mindfulness, and positive mental framing, you can quickly gain the psychological upper hand. Combine these mental hacks with physical exercises, remedies and techniques for a full-body approach to explosive lovemaking.
12. Foreplay Mastery: Setting the Stage to Last
Mastering the art of foreplay is one of the most natural exercises to last longer in bed. By taking your time with lengthy warmup sessions, you can avoid the quick discharge of sperm and learn how to control arousal before intercourse even begins.
Extend the Buildup
According to a study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, the average time between initial sexual contact and ejaculation is just 5.4 minutes. Clearly leaving little time for proper arousal control. By consciously extending foreplay to 20-30 minutes of teasing, you allow yourself to ride multiple waves of arousal and relaxation before reaching the point of no return.
Incorporate Mindfulness
During extended foreplay sessions, practice concentration techniques like breathwork, body exploration with your hands, and sensual visualization. This combination helps you stay grounded in the moment while gradually increasing arousal at a controlled pace, rather than rushing towards the finish line.
Take Periodic Breaks
If you feel yourself becoming too aroused during foreplay, take a short 2-3 minute break where you avoid any manual or oral stimulation. According to Sex Therapist Dr. Ian Kerner in his book She Comes First, this “start-stop” pattern helps eliminate performance anxiety by reminding your body you can guide the experience.
Go Down…Then Go Down Again
Oral sex during foreplay is doubly effective – first for bringing her arousal to a peak, and second for giving you a chance to “cool off” and reset your own arousal levels through focusing on her pleasure. Don’t underestimate the power of generous oral attention as part of your lasting longer strategy.
With patience and an appreciation for the sensual journey, extended foreplay sessions can naturally teach your body and mind how to avoid premature ejaculation. Combine these arousal control warmups with other exercises like penis mastery techniques for a multi-pronged approach to lasting as long as you desire once the main event starts.
13. Strategic Positions to Help You Last Longer in Bed
While mental techniques and foreplay mastery are important, utilizing strategic sex positions can also help you last longer in bed during lovemaking. Certain angles and motions decrease stimulation to delay climax.
Switch to the C.A.T.
The Coital Alignment Technique (C.A.T.) involves positioning your body further up and away from direct penis/vagina contact. As described in a study published in The Journal of Sex Research, this reduces friction and pressure on the most sensitive areas, allowing you to maintain a steady rhythm for extended periods.
Take it From Behind
Rear-entry positions like doggy style put you in a less stimulating glans-friendly angle that can help distract from overtightness and friction. Just be cautious about going too deep, which could have the opposite effect. Go shallow and focus on grinding motions.
Assume the Captain’s Chair
Have your partner sit upright in your lap, legs wrapped around you. This face-to-face seated position severely limits thrusting ability while still allowing intimacy. According to an analysis by Popular Science, it’s one of the “lowest transmission” positions for premature ejaculation concerns.
Stick the Landing
The reception position, with the woman lying on her back and you straddling her raised leg, targets a less sensitive angle of entry. It also allows for shallow penetration and physical separation if overstimulation occurs.
Supplement With Props
Using humble home remedies like putting a pillow or plush toy between your bodies during missionary acts as a friction buffer can dull stimulation. Or invest in purpose-made stamina rings, sleeves and sprays that contain mild desensitizers.
Switching up positions strategically not only makes sessions more interesting, but can be an easy biohack to control stimulation and last longer while making love. Just be sure to communicate needs with your partner.
14. Pacing Yourself: Control the Bedroom Rhythm
Lasting longer in bed isn’t just about techniques and positions – it’s also about controlling the pace and rhythm. Moving too vigorously too fast is a surefire way to cross the point of no return prematurely. Here are some pacing tips:
Start With Shallow Strokes
Once you penetrate, keep your thrusts short and relatively shallow. Going deep can provide intense friction that brings you to the edge quickly. Stick to about halfway penetration at first while getting acclimated to the sensations.
Use the “Pause” Trick
If you feel yourself getting too excited and close to orgasm, don’t be afraid to pause all motion completely. Stop, breathe deeply, and think about something boring like filling out taxes or grocery lists. This “start-stop” pacing allows you to reset before resuming.
Find Your Sweet Spot
Eventually you’ll find a rhythm, stroke length, and “sweet spot” angle that provides pleasure without overwhelming stimulation. Lock into that calm, steady groove. Adjust your pace to stay at about 70% of your maximum arousal threshold.
Change Positions Regularly
Switching positions periodically is a great way to disrupt your arousal pattern and give your body a break from any one angle or motion. Treat each new position as an opportunity to reset and reboot your staying power.
With a focus on starting slowly, pausing for breaks, and frequently mixing up the motions and positions, you can learn to master your sexual rhythm for extended lovemaking sessions. Pay attention to your body’s feedback to find your ideal sustainable pace.
15. Sex Toys and Products for Delaying Climax
While techniques like edging, strategic positions, and pacing can help increase staying power, sometimes a little external assistance can provide an extra boost. There are many sex toys and desensitizing products designed specifically to help you last longer during intercourse.
Desensitizing Sprays
One of the most popular options for delaying climax are topical desensitizing sprays like XiangJiu Delay Spray For Men. As shown in this guide video from Sexual Health TV, a few sprays containing a mild anesthetic like lidocaine or benzocaine can temporarily reduce sensation before sex to help you last longer in bed.
According to a 2020 study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine, desensitizing sprays were rated as one of the most effective delaying products by men dealing with premature ejaculation, helping to increase intravaginal ejaculation latency time (IELT) by an average of over 6 minutes.
Stamina Rings & Sleeves
Cock rings and snug penis sleeve toys help restrict blood flow just enough to make ejaculation more difficult. Research published in The American Journal of Men’s Health found about 20% of men report using delaying rings/products to last longer.
Climax Control Condoms
Regular condoms already dull sensation to an extent, but specialty climax control/prolonger condoms are treated with desensitizing benzocaine lubricants. The FDA has approved several benzocaine condoms as aides for premature ejaculation.
While effective, it’s important to experiment cautiously with any numbing delay products and find the right levels that decrease oversensitivity without eliminating pleasure entirely. Communication and plenty of lube are key for a satisfying experience when using desensitizers.